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Updated: Jul 2, 2020

While the current pandemic has forced couples to make many difficult decisions, trimming down the guest list may be one of the hardest. There are a plethora of reasons a couple might choose to cut back on their headcount or find the need to eliminate guests altogether. The causes could range from state restrictions and new venue policies to unforeseen financial circumstances. Regardless of the situation, couples can still involve their favorite people in a special way.

We like to call it a Distant Toast! While large weddings with everyone gathered in one spot may be on hold right now you can still invite your guests to celebrate from afar. This might be an actual group toast on a zoom call or it could be a small gift to show your appreciation for the love and support from your family and friends. We have pulled together a handful of Distant Toast ideas for you to consider below.

Monogramed bubbly

Sending a bottle of bubbly is the perfect pairing for a scheduled zoom toast with those who couldn’t be with you on your wedding day. You can customize the bubbly with a cocktail stirrer, a tag or a sticker that showcases your wedding brand for an added level of detail. Include a personalized note of celebration along with it:

We are so grateful to have such supportive family and friends. We wish you could be here to celebrate with us, but know you will be toasting from afar!

Monogramed Can Coolers

Paired with the couple’s favorite carbonated beverage, a can cooler is certainly a light-hearted approach to a distant toast. As a long-term keepsake can coolers also offer a distinctive area to get creative and have fun with wording:

Sip, sip hooray! We’re getting married anyway!

Monogramed Matches and a Candle

If you have scaled back on your wedding guest count, and in turn your overall spend, then sending a gift of gratitude may be the ideal way to connect with your family and friends. Include a candle with a custom printed tag and custom designed set of matches. Add a note of thanks that might read:

For the safety of our guests, we have decided to marry in an intimate ceremony on July 18th. This gift is a token of our appreciation for years of your support and guidance. We are so excited to begin our lives as husband and wife.

Confetti Poppers

Celebrate with a bang by sending confetti poppers! These can be customized with stickers and tags to match your wedding colors or design theme and carry with it a fun way to celebrate for all ages! Don't forget to include an invitation to celebrate:

Since we can no longer celebrate in person, we ask that you join us on January 2nd, 2021 at 6pm for a Distant Toast!

In light of the current situation, making the best of it is the name of the game. A Distant Toast can add an extra special touch when celebrating from afar or a great way to let your friends and family know that you are thinking of them just as they are thinking of you.

Check out our online shop to find boxes, tags, and stickers for personalizing your Distant Toast. Or visit us at to find additional personalized gift ideas. And if you are looking to curate a more custom line of goods for your Distant Toast just drop us a note!

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You found the perfect dress. Your Save the Dates have been sent. The Invitations have gone into production. But then, a pandemic arrives during the months leading up to your wedding day. It was never supposed to look like this but circumstances have forced you to rethink the size of your wedding. And more specifically, your wedding guest count.

Guest lists can change for many reasons but rarely is it ever due to global crisis. Today, couples who have been directly impacted by the pandemic have had to rethink what their big day will now look like. For some, it has required them to reduce the number of guests invited to the wedding.

Reducing the guest list could be necessary for a variety of reasons. Each state currently has different restrictions and what is happening in your state now could be very different in another. As a result, venues may have certain conditions they need to follow. Other venues are building upon state guidelines to create their own set of rules to keep themselves and their guests as safe as possible. In addition, with the change in the economy, unforeseen financial pressures may require a couple to rethink the size of their wedding.

Lisa Hladish, Owner of Paper Daisies Stationery, recommends that if you do need to alter your guest list, particularly after guests have received a Save the Date and/or an Invitation, that you follow these 3 steps in moving forward:

Best to be honest and genuine

These are unprecedented times with no real playbook for how or what to do. With the restrictions on gathering size it should not come as a big surprise for most guests. Your sincere message will go a long way.

No need to over explain

There is certainly no need to share with your guests exactly why this is happening. As noted above, a sincere and honest message is key. The language below is just one way to share the news.

“Due to unforeseen circumstances and after much consideration we have made the difficult decision to pare down our wedding ceremony. As a result we cannot accommodate as many of our friends and family as we had hoped. We wish you could be but we know you’ll celebrate with us from afar.”

Get the word out ASAP

It is important to share with guests as soon as you have made your decision. While so much of life has been on hold for every one they will surely appreciate the notice sooner than later. Especially for those folks who have to book anything where deposits can’t be returned.

Downsizing the guest count is no easy decision. But if necessary, we suggest you consider the previous steps above. And if you need assistance in designing postponement cards, elopement announcements or cards that will thoughtfully describe the newly downsized event we invite you to chat with us online or email us.


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We have some invitation suites that are our absolute favorite and would like to share them with you! There's a lot that goes into a custom wedding stationery suite including the printing processes, the color selections, and all the little intricate details that tie the suite together from the Save the Date to the Day of Stationery.

Check out this collection as Lisa explains what it took to make Hartley & Spencer's invitations.

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