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Weddings are celebrations filled with love, laughter, and personal moments. One of the essential elements of any wedding is the wedding invitation. It serves as a formal announcement of the upcoming nuptials and sets the tone for the entire event. To ensure that your wedding invitation process goes smoothly and you avoid any unintended missteps, we have compiled a list of do's and don'ts of wedding invitation etiquette.

The Do's

Send Invitations in a Timely Manner:

Send out your wedding invitations at least 8-10 weeks in advance for in-town weddings and 12 weeks for destination weddings. This timeframe is a little earlier than past recommendations. The post office is slower than ever so expect delays and be prepared to follow up with any guests you don't hear back from. This allows guests enough time to RSVP and make necessary arrangements. For destination weddings or if many guests need to travel, consider sending save-the-date cards even earlier.


Provide Clear and Concise Information:

Include all essential details on the invitation, such as the date, time, and location of the ceremony and reception. If there are any additional events like rehearsal dinners, welcome parties or post-wedding brunches, mention them separately. Don't forget to provide a rsvp card for your guests to send back. Another option that is gaining popularity is an online rsvp card which asks your guests to reply via your wedding website. You can collect additional information like entree selections or travel arrangements. Clearly indicate the deadline for responses, allowing you to finalize your guest list and make necessary arrangements.


Address Invitations Correctly

Address each invitation correctly by using formal titles and proper names. If you're uncertain about someone's preferred title, it's best to use "Mr." or "Ms." followed by their last name. If using inner envelopes, remember to list the names of all individuals invited, making it clear who is and is not invited to your wedding. Read our comprehensive how-to guide to correctly address your guests!


Use a Consistent Style

Ensure that your wedding invitation suite, including the invitation, envelopes, and RSVP cards, follows a cohesive style. This will give your guests a glimpse of your wedding theme or color scheme. We like to say our invitations make your guests want to go out and buy a new outfit!


Proof read, proof read and proof read again!

We cannot stress enough how important it is to review your stationery proofs before signing off for them to go to print. It's always a good idea to have another set of eyes read over them before sending final approval. Double-checking all names, dates, missing information, and that venue names & addresses are correct to ensure accuracy. Carefully proofread the content to avoid any spelling or grammatical errors. Reprints can be very costly and cause a delay in sending to your guests.

The Don'ts:

Don't Include Registry Information

Avoid including your gift registry details on the wedding invitation. It is considered poor etiquette. Instead, share this information through word of mouth or on your wedding website.


Don't Overwhelm with Excessive Details

While you may be bursting with excitement, resist the urge to overload your invitation with excessive details. Avoid overwhelming your guests with driving directions, maps, or every little aspect of the celebration. Instead, let your invitation be a beautiful glimpse into the magic of your wedding day, leaving room for curiosity and anticipation.


If your guests need to know a lot of information beforehand, consider put it on your wedding website. Then, have your details card direct your recipients to your website to read the full amount of info!


Don't Assume Plus-Ones

When it comes to plus-ones, be mindful of your budget and venue capacity. Unless explicitly stated, it's not necessary to invite a plus-one for every guest. Trust that your guests will understand and respect your choices, as your celebration is an intimate reflection of your love story.


Don't Use Abbreviations or Nicknames

When addressing invitations, avoid using abbreviations or nicknames unless it's a well-known and preferred name. Use formal titles and full names to maintain the formality of the invitation.



Wedding invitation etiquette plays a crucial role in setting the tone for your big day. By following these do's and don'ts, you can ensure that your invitations reflect the elegance and grace of your wedding while making your guests feel valued and appreciated. Remember, clear communication, attention to detail, and respect for traditions are the key elements that will make your wedding invitation process a smooth and enjoyable experience for everyone involved. Happy planning!




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Updated: Jun 19, 2023


A wedding is a blissful celebration of love, and the first glimpse guests get into this joyous occasion is through the wedding invitations. These carefully crafted cards not only convey the essential details but also set the tone and theme for the event. For couples planning a wedding in the breathtaking Highlands of North Carolina, the invitation becomes an opportunity to showcase the natural beauty and charm of this picturesque destination. In this blog post, we will explore ideas for creating captivating wedding invitations that perfectly capture the essence of Highland weddings in North Carolina.



Nature-Inspired Designs

Photo credits: The Willets

When it comes to Highland weddings, the natural beauty of the surroundings serves as a the perfect inspiration for your wedding stationery suite. Incorporate elements inspired by the lush greenery and towering mountains into your invitation design. Consider using botanical illustrations, watercolor landscapes, or floral motifs to create an aesthetic that matches the setting.


Rustic Elegance

The Highlands of North Carolina are known for their rustic charm, making it an excellent theme for wedding invitations. Opt for earthy tones, such as warm browns, deep greens, or soft neutrals, to reflect the region's natural aesthetic. Add rustic elements like twine or dark green ribbon to infuse a touch of elegance into the invitation suite.


Watercolors of the area

Make your invitation suite your own by adding watercolors that reflect the scenery and the venue! You can draw inspiration from the setting with pine trees and mountain landscapes. Or you can use places where your wedding events will take place, like the bridal hut at Old Edwards Inn!



Wedding invitations for Highland weddings in North Carolina present an exciting opportunity to infuse the charm and natural beauty of the region into your design. From nature-inspired motifs and rustic elegance to mountain graphics and watercolors, there are endless possibilities to capture the essence of this enchanting destination. Let your wedding invitations serve as a glimpse into the beautiful scenery that awaits them!


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Wedding invitations are an important aspect of the wedding planning process. They set the tone for the event and provide important information for guests, such as the date, time, and location of the wedding. We find that the most time consuming part of wedding stationery planning is gathering and organizing your guest addresses. At Paper Daisies Stationery, one of the main questions we are asked is how to address your invitations?


When it comes to gathering your guest list, there are a few different scenarios that can arise – here’s our how to guide to addressing wedding invitations!


Inner & outer envelopes


Traditionally, wedding invitations came with both an inner and outer envelope. The outer envelope was addressed to the household, while the inner envelope listed the names of the individuals who were invited.


The purpose of the inner envelope is to provide an extra layer of protection for the invitation and to ensure that each individual knows they are personally invited to the wedding.


Here are the most common instances we see -


Outer envelope | Married couple
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Married couple
Mr. and Mrs. Smith

or

John and Jane

(note: first names only can be seen as more casual)


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Outer envelope | Married couple when woman kept her maiden name
Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Married couple when woman kept her maiden name
Mrs. Doe and Mr. Smith

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Outer envelope | Juniors
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, junior
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Juniors
Mr. and Mrs. Smith, junior

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Outer envelope | Married couple who are both doctors

The Drs. Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

or

The Drs. John and Jane Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Married couple who are both doctors

The Doctors Smith

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Outer envelope | A couple where one is a doctor

(the doctor will go first, no matter the gender)

Dr. Jane and Mr. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

or

Dr. John and Mrs. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | A couple where one is a doctor

Dr. Jane and Mr. John Smith

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Outer envelope | Family with children

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Family with children

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Jane, Samantha and Jack

(children will only go on the inner envelope and children over the age of 18 should receive their own invitation)


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Outer envelope | Couple who lives together but are not married

Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

or

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Couple who lives together but are not married

Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe

or

John and Jane

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Outer envelope | Single man or woman

Mr. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

or

Ms. Jane Doe
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Single man or woman

Mr. Smith

or

Ms. Doe

John

or

Jane

----

Outer envelope | Single man or woman with a plus-one

Mr. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

or

Ms. Jane Doe
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Single man or woman with a plus-one

Mr. Smith and guest

or

Ms. Doe and guest

(guests will only go on the inner envelope)


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Outer envelope | Single man or woman with a known guest

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Single man or woman with a known guest

Mr. Smith
Ms. Doe

(list your friend first, regardless of gender, and their guest on the line below)


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Outer envelope | Same gender couple

Mr. John & Jacob Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

(if they share the same last name)

or

Mr John Smith & Mr. Jacob Williams
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

(if they share they have different last names)


Inner envelope | Same gender couple

Mr. and Mr. Smith

or

Mr. Smith and Mr. Williams

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Outer envelope | Non-binary guests

Mx. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Non-binary guests

Mx. Smith

or

John

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Outer envelope | Couple where one guest is a judge or governor

The Honorable and Mrs. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Couple where one guest is a judge

Judge and Mrs. Smith

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Outer envelope | Couple where a guest is a member of the clergy

The Reverend and Mrs. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Father Simon Peter
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Rabbi and Mrs. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Couple where a guest is a member of the clergy

The Reverend and Mrs. Smith

Father Peter

Rabbi and Mrs. Smith

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Outer envelope | Couple where the male is a military officer

Colonel and Mrs. John Smith
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Couple where the male is a military officer

Colonel and Mrs. Smith

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Outer envelope | Couple where the female is a military officer

General Kimberly Stone, U.S. Army and Mr. Jason Dean
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

Inner envelope | Couple where the female is a military officer

General Stone and Mr. Jason Dean






Outer envelopes

While inner and outer envelopes were traditionally used for wedding invitations, many couples opt to skip the inner envelope for cost.


If you are only using an outer envelope, in some circumstances you will need to address it a bit differently than if you were using both envelopes. Here are those special cases!



Family with children

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Jane, Samantha and Jack
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

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Outer envelope | Single man or woman with a plus-one

Mr. John Smith and guest
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345

or

Ms. Jane Doe and guest
1234 Paper Daisies Lane
Atlanta, Georgia 12345


At Paper Daisies, we offer computer calligraphy services to print on your envelopes for you! If you select computer calligraphy when building your cart and placing your order, we will send over our guest list templates for you to use to help guide you. When we receive your completed guest list, we will send you a proof of each address so you can check for accuracy and make sure your envelopes are perfect before we send to print!


In the event you have any questions not covered in this blog, reach out to your dedicated designer and we can help!


Happy addressing!


Love,

The Paper Daisies team






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